Lessons Life Taught Me
Written by Regina Brett, 52 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.
“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.”
- Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
- When in doubt, just take the next small step.
- Life is too short – enjoy it.
- Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
- Pay off your credit cards every month.
- You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
- Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
- It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
- Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
- When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
- Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
- It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
- Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
- If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
- Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don’t worry, God never blinks.
- Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
- Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
- Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
- It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
- When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
- Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
- Over prepare, then go with the flow.
- Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
- The most important organ is the brain.
- No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
- Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
- Always choose life.
- Forgive
- What other people think of you is none of your business.
- Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
- However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
- Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
- Believe in miracles.
- God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
- Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
- Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
- Your children get only one childhood.
- All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
- Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
- If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
- Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need
- The best is yet to come…
- No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
- Yield.
- Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

love it
I am actually partial to turquoise and navy blue, but lilac is my second favorite. I am fond of the “Warning” poem, “When I Am an Old Woman, I Shall Wear Purple.” A Spanish-speaking colleague once called out, “Lila!” (the word for lilac) and I looked at her quizzically until she clarified, “The color lilac. It looks good on you.”
Funny AND relatable!
Excellent! Thank you!
great comments! As for the purple! noted already as being one of my favourite colours – i reckon though you can get more eccentric as you grow older – one of the benefits!
I would also just like to say that I enjoy your blog so much that I have nominated you for Blog of the Year. If you accept, then please place the award on your site and link to me, then nominate some other bloggers that you like!
It is an honor to be nominated for Blog of the year!!!! Thank you so much!!! Take Care and God Bless
Kenny T
Lots of good advice there!
Thank you for sharing these thought…inspired
Thanks! Have read it before, and LOVE it!! Shared it with Team A…thank you!
Great!!! and I’m glad you enjoyed it… Take Care and God Bless
Kenny T
Great list. Thanks for sharing. Just one note: the author is 52 or 53, not 90. http://blog.cleveland.com/pdextra/2007/09/regina_bretts_45_life_lessons.html
Hey and thanks for the information. I updated the age with 52 (the lesser of the numbers you gave, she’s a lady). Take Care and God Bless
Kenny T
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Some great lessons in this list1
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Since most of my post as of late have been about my life and what I should do with it, I thought I would share this inspiring post I found on this amazng blog. Enjoy!
wise words of wisdom, thanks for sharing. reblogged on declaringhispower.
Reblogged this on declaringhispower and commented:
Some wise words of wisdom
Awesome, love these.
Beautiful! Rule 10 is my fav.
3, 17, 20, 21, 25, 34, 42, 43, 45
Reblogged this on The Life of Adeolu Owokade and commented:
Great lessons…simple and true
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My Absolute favorite on this list is #40 because I know in my heart it’s so true. I also believe that the best wisdom comes from people who have led truly full lives like the woman who wrote this list. Wonderful advice! Planning to print this out and post it in my office.
what a wonderful idea – tell me if you are going to do it — I just may take you up on it
I really liked this! I reblogged it on Crazywonderfullife. Thanks!
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I have actually heard most of these sayings before, but it’s really cool to see them all together…sort of a checklist for peace of mind. I had the thought to use each one as a piece of inspiration for a blog post. It would take me through at least 45 days! Feel free to use my idea, but let me know somehow, because I would like to see what you write!
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This is from a blog which I actively follow. I suggest you check it out thoroughly and follow it likewise if the spirit so moves you. michael
I think I need to read this to my group of Bible Study residents at Hickory Creek tomorrow. (a nursing home). Rule 10, and 16–my favorites.
You know what? The timing of this post is spot-on! I think that would probably be the case every day.
Excellent words to live by! Take care, Kenny T!
Saved in my “Counseling Handouts” folder.
Excellent advice